Have you separated from your partner to find freedom, yet realise you still feel trapped?
Do you wish you could avoid your ex completely but can’t because you have children you feel responsible for?
Does your ex seem impossible to deal with?
Are you still with you partner - seriously considering separating but not sure if it is the right thing to do?
Do you feel like the only way forward to be a doormat?
Don’t give up. Get curious! The light at the end of the tunnel may be brighter and close than you realise. Let’s meet! Buy me a coffee and we’ll have a chat to see what I can do for you.
It’s not easy being a man. You may feel you are expected to be able to handle everything – all the stresses of life, and somehow do this without support. You may feel all alone in your struggle but I assure you, you are not. It is very common for men to feel overwhelmed, lost, powerless (to name but a few).
Maybe you have already sought help and discovered that when it comes to matters of separation, the world seems to be heavily biased towards helping women. There is a lot of support out there for women but not so much for men and it takes a brave man to reach out for help.
You have come to the right place. Sometimes you need something a little different to the mainstream help available such as seeking the help of psychologists, counsellors or lawyers. I am able to offer you something which you will not be able to find anywhere else. In fact, my favourite clients are the ones who feel like they have tried everything and still haven’t found what they need.
If you have not met me yet, you have not tried everything. Please help me help you. Let’s turn your overwhelm into underwhelm. Let’s find where you are stuck and unstick you. Let’s make the impossible possible.
You may have some regrets at the moment but you will not regret getting in touch with me.
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Meet Monique Neal – Separation Strategist and founder of Cornerstone Discovery
I want you to imagine you’re outside on a scorching hot summer’s day. The sun is beating down upon you and you have been slaving away digging in your garden for 3 straight hours. You feel exhausted and parched.
Fortunately for you… it’s break time! Out comes the ice. Out comes the drink. CHI!!! *** Mmmm… Cool…. Bubbly…. Refreshing! That is how most people describe me.
I am enthusiastic and curious. I love learning and growing and have happily invested a lot of time and money in Personal Development. I joined Toastmasters when I was 21 years old and am currently the President of the Glenfield Toastmasters Club. Choosing to be part of Toastmasters has been one of the best decisions I have ever made. It has given me confidence to express myself and I have developed leadership skills along the way.
I have a desire to lead people to the fruition of their desires the easiest and fastest way possible. I love puzzles and challenges and believe no "problem" comes without a solution. I find solutions and enjoy every minute of the search.
I love win win situations and easily create them.
What is a Separation Strategist?
/ˈstratɪdʒi/ - a plan of action designed to achieve a long-term or overall aim.
/ˈstratədʒɪst/ - a person skilled in planning action or policy, especially in war or politics.
Interestingly enough, I am not a fan of war or politics. However, it does often seem that these can creep into a marriage. I am particularly fond of the mindset of Sun Tzu, author of the book “The Art of War”.
My three favourite quotes of his are:
The method I use to help clients find freedom (whether with a partner or separated) is based on awareness – awareness of yourself and awareness of your partner/ex partner. Knowledge is power. I help you uncover unknowns. Trying to complete a puzzle when you have pieces missing is a futile exercise. Come and see me and together we can turn your puzzle into a pleasant picture.
As a separation strategist I look at what we are dealing with and devise a strategy which suits your particular situation. I doubt you will find answers anywhere else as precise and tailormade as the ones I will find for you.
If you have had enough, it is time to take action. I am only a phone call or an email away.
Consulation – Free (if you buy me a coffee)
1 hour $150
2 hours $225
Communication Coaching (1 week period) – included at no extra cost with 1 or 2 hour session
“Before seeking Monique’s help, my ex-wife and I had a lot of resentment towards each other. There was a lot of hostility. Shared custody of our children was happening, but everything seemed so difficult. I followed Monique’s advice. Now we communicate with more respect. I am closer to my children. In general life is better all over. I would not have been able to make these changes without her guidance. The best thing for me is that I can see the positive difference it has made to my boys now that I am setting a good example.”
“Choosing to exit my marriage was huge for me. Monique helped me see it was the best thing I could do. I am now happier and healthier than ever before. For 17 years I don’t think I had any idea who I was. Now life is getting better and better. Even though I am no longer with my partner and feel I had an extremely rough ride, I am proud and appreciative that even in the emotional turmoil we did raise some amazing kids.”
“I can’t believe how many years I tried going through my ex to try and see my son. I now go around her and am having much better success.”
My favourite story… While on holiday I met a man who was also on holiday. He was getting away as he had just come out of a 33 year marriage. We spoke and together discovered many things about himself and his partner. He felt he was out of the fire and into the frying pan, as he had separated from being together with his wife for a very long time, and had a lot of sorting out to do (which he really did not want to have to go through).
Fortunately, he followed my coaching for communicating with her, and the woman he thought he knew so well – the woman who would normally argue and not back down…. the woman who only had one mode (which was to fight) ended up crying. This was new for him. When he told me about what happened I said, “THAT is your real wife.” It was a very humbling experience for them both and very moving for me as I knew that within the tears, some healing was taking place.
I think it is a little sad when people only find out who their partners are AFTER they are no longer together. However, I enjoy being able to help people make peace with themselves and their partners and sometimes build friendships even when it seems all is lost.
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